#171: If you want students to take REAL accountability for their behaviours, here's the 4 things you need to do.

What's in this episode

Teachers are constantly being told to move away from punitive approaches — but rarely given the actual, practical skills to replace them with. And that gap? It's leaving teachers feeling disempowered, lost, and like restorative practice just doesn't work. This episode is Claire's answer to that. She's breaking down her exact framework for helping students build real accountability after big behaviour moments — in a way that's realistic, respectful, and actually works in a real classroom. In this episode, Claire covers: Why restorative conversations alone aren't enough — and what's actually missing What real accountability looks like (hint: it's not a forced apology or a lunchtime detention) Her four-step framework: Regulate, Reflect, Repair, Record Regulate — why you can't skip this step, and how to support a student's nervous system before any conversation happens Reflect — getting students to genuinely understand what happened and why, using scaffolds that don't feel like an interrogation Repair — letting students choose their own pathway forward so there's real buy-in and ownership Record — why documentation isn't punitive, it's protective — for you and for them Why students shu